This article explores the identity of unpaid carers to create a resource to identify their needs. Research findings are considered regarding the adoption or refusal of self-identification as a carer, reasons for caring and the change in the care relationship and the impact on the carer’s life pattern, health, and wellbeing. The elements are pulled together to create a model that highlights various aspects of caregiving. The model recognises the relational and dual (dyadic) nature of care activities and how carers’ experiences are fluid. The typology of six different types of carers is presented: independent carer; occasional ‘drop-in’ carer; constant carer; immersed carer; disenfranchised carer and hidden lost carer. Recommendations are made for further research and practice.